Overweight Women: AskMen

What is the first thing that comes up when you google “Overweight Women“? I decided last night, with a monstrous migraine and thus lack of creativity for today’s post (still, dedication!), to find out.

And what did I discover? Well, the first website for “overweight women” is a question and answer session from…AskMen? Hold up. I type in “overweight WOMEN” and the FIRST thing I get is a link to AskMen? Something in the milk ain’t clean, yo.

In our final moments of “Weight and Sexuality” week, there actually could not be a more perfect conclusion. In googling “overweight women,” somehow the first thing I come across is an extremely offensive commentary about…overweight women. By a man. Oh internet…you never cease to amaze me with how degrading and offensive you are.

Firstly, this is a question and answer session with someone who calls himself “Doc Love,” who writes for AskMen and is also featured on brilliant sites such as The Beautiful Russian Women Agency. Oh, and he looks like this:

The Authority On Women and Relationships...and Subject of My Nightmares

So clearly we should take him very seriously. “Doc Love” bills himself as “The Number One Love Doctor On The Internet” (what a mighty title!) and teaches a course on what he calls “The System” which is apparently “a blueprint for finding and keeping the right woman. It’s all about teaching men to act like MEN, and not the idiots we’re made out to be on TV by advice gurus, daytime talk shows, movies, commericals, etc.” Wow. And why do you think men are portrayed as idiots, Doc Love? Could it be because of disgusting slugs like yourself who have to teach them how to “keep” a woman, as you would a pet?

Parts of “The System” include (well, in the FREE preview at least…the full-on course costs $99): “Deciphering Womanese – her secret language” [because, clearly, all females are fluent in a secret code based on our gender]; “What she really wants versus what she says she wants” [because, again clearly, men know what females want better than females know what they want]; and “The one male trait that will make her do anything for you” [because, again and again clearly, what males really want in a woman is for her to become their slave].

But, let’s get to the meat of the matter (mmmm, meat). What oh what does “Doc Love” think about OVERWEIGHT WOMEN that is so important that it is at the very tippy top of the google search? Let’s check out the posed question first, which AskMen decided to entitle “Should You Marry An Overweight Woman?” (because, again and again and again clearly, overweight women–or women of any size, for that matter–desperately want to marry men who take advice from some internet sleaze who calls himself “DocLove”).

Question:

Dear Doc Love,

I’ve checked out several of your articles and I must tell you that I am appalled by what I’ve read.

You seem to think that any woman who isn’t anorexic is not worth the time of day. What’s with you? You make fun of Oprah and Rosie O’Donnell for being overweight, and then you praise skinny women with plastic breasts. Did you ever consider that perhaps Rosie and Oprah are the size they are because that’s the way nature madethem? Why should they starve themselves for men’s approval?

here are some facts for you

Many loving, sweet, kind women are overlooked because they don’t fit your rigid standards of beauty. I encourage you to check out the following facts and figures:

• There are 3 billion women who don’t look like supermodels and only a handful who do.
• Marilyn Monroe wore a size 14.
• If Barbie were a real woman, she’d have to walk on all fours due to her exaggerated proportions.
• The average woman weighs 144 lb. and wears between a size 12 and 14.
• The models in the magazines are airbrushed — not perfect!
• A psychological study in 1995 found that three minutes spent looking at a fashion magazine caused 70% of women readers to feel depressed, guilty and shameful.
• Models twenty years ago weighed 8% less than the average woman. Today they weigh 23% less.

And even though I know that you’ll laugh at this, I’m including a little poem for you Doc, as food for thought.

Beauty of a Woman

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears
The figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair
The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes
Because that is the doorway to her heart
The place where love lies
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole
But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul—Lucinda — who thinks that you are a total bigot Doc Love

Dear Lucinda,The Bible says that gluttony is a sin. But when I watch overweight preachers on TV Sunday morning, they speak only of the other six deadly sins. Why? Because in America, fat is sacred.Here’s the big idea…Yesterday I saw an obese woman using a cane to waddle her way through the supermarket because she couldn’t carry her own weight. With her tree trunk calves and her tiny feet in her tiny shoes, she looked like a 747 sporting Volkswagen tires.Now, Lucinda, I know what you would say about her. You’d say she’s not responsible for her slovenly, self-destructive eating habits. She can’t and need not control how much she eats. She should be able to look however she wants and not be judged on her appearance. And everyone knows that it wouldn’t be politically correct to criticize her.Well, I don’t care how much the various “full figured” gals may glorify their excess poundage. Fat is not beautiful to everyone and, more importantly, it’s not healthy. Overweight people are at risk for diabetes, heart attacks, high blood pressure, and wearing out the living room carpet before its time. Food is meant to be used for fuel, not as a way to escape life’s problems.

take a look at her profile

When a man picks a potential long-term partner, he must first look at her Interest Level [degree of love], as “The System” states. Then through the process of dating, he should evaluate her habits and attitudes. Does she have integrity? Is she a giver or a taker? Is she structured or flexible? Is she self-reliant? Is she a functioning adult? Does she practice self-control or is she run by her emotions? And does she have any unhealthy habits or addictions like, drugs, tobacco or food?

Most importantly, I want men to pick women who are not overweight for partners, so they will raise their kids to be healthy and not have eating disorders. Statistics show that if the parents are overweight, 90% of the time the kids also end up with weight problems.

Let me give it to you straight…

kate moss prototype

Lucinda, please allow me to clear something up. I’ve never said that all women should be model thin. Nature has made both ectomorphs and endomorphs of both genders. And each body type has its corresponding healthy weight range (and unhealthy weight range).

Additionally, different men have different tastes in women. Some men prefer medium sized gals and some get excited about gals who are on the hefty side. America is a free country and to each his own. But the Reality Factor [see reality for what it is while dating and not follow your wants or wishes] says that the majority of men prefer women who are not overweight. Like it or not Lucinda, that’s the way it is on the street, just as women prefer wealthy men to guys who are on welfare.

Lucinda, let’s get real. Be honest. Imagine that you had a friend who was trying to set you up with a handsome, charming fellow who weighed 300 pounds and would crush a camel if he tried to ride one. When you tell your friend (as you surely would) that “he’s just not my type,” would you be any different from a guy who rejects a pretty girl because she’s the same height and weight as Oprah?

here’s a stat for you

By the way, the reason that models now weigh 23% less than the average woman instead of 8% less is because the average woman is now 15% heavier than she was 20 years ago. The models aren’t getting thinner. People are getting fatter! Government statistics report that over 40% of the population is clinically overweight. To you Psych majors: they’re obese.

Now you’ve provided us with another interesting statistic Lucinda. Seven out of ten women get bummed out when they look at fashion magazines. But curiously, women don’t seem to feel depressed, guilty and shameful enough to stop buying those magazines.

So I guess that these unhappy fashion fans are the same women whom you say that all men should accept regardless of their appearance. But I must ask you: how can you legitimately insist that all men accept these women as they are when these very same women apparently can’t even accept themselves as they are???

Now here is a poem for you, Lucinda:

Roses are red,
Violets are blue
If you want your girlfriend to look like Roseanne,
Have her eat like her too.

Remember, guys, only invest in healthy companies and healthy women.

The world is not full of Attractive People and Unattractive People. It’s full of people who are attractive to some and not to others. I hear from trolls all the time who complain that they don’t want to be “forced” to find nasty, ugly fat women attractive–which utterly baffles me, since the last thing I want to do is encourage fat-hating dicks to date fat women. You don’t find fat people attractive? Fabulous. Don’t date them. I will find a way to pick myself up and move on without your love. But to assume your lack of sexual interest in fat chicks must be universal–or that the mere existence of self-confident fat people having healthy relationships somehow “forces” you to find fat attractive–is the height of f-ing narcissism.